Resilience; a cure or curse?

In Rachel’s recent article 3 things to ask yourself about resilience’, she highlighted that rightly or wrongly resilience has been heralded as the best skill to cope with stress.

However, rather than focus on ways to defeat stress, I challenge that we instead ask why stress is so commonplace accepted as an assumed and unavoidable state of being. So rather than focus on how we can be more resilient, we should divert our attention to prevention of stress, then perhaps, there’ll be less need to cope and bounce back.

As Arianna Huffington outlined, it’s ‘a collective delusion that burning out is a necessary price for achieving success’. While Robert Holden in his book Authentic Success emphasises the concept of a ‘Manic Society’ whereby ‘we’re taught to believe the idea that everyone can be richer and happier if we would just go faster and work harder. In the end, this manic lifestyle and our manic workplaces take their toll on our health, your relationships and ultimately our happiness.’

While, in the 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss he emphasises that not all stress is bad, eustress is a ‘healthy’ stress, whereby when we are challenged and taken out of our comfort zone, the feeling of eustress is ‘healthful and the stimulus for growth’, while ‘it is distress that is harmful stress’ and causing the need to be more resilient.

Let’s focus not on how can we be more resilient, but why is there a growing need for more resilience to cope? By solving at source and harnessing workplaces that encourage a balanced lifestyle full of development, nurturing and healthy lifestyles, resilience could become a nice to have rather than a necessity to cope.

 

Written by Emma Masding

Emma comes from a management consulting and media background and is passionate about well-being, philosophies of life and great food. Emma is about to start training as a life and career coach and is combining her interests of applying well-being theories to practical life with a love of writing to blog for Yoke.